What do lesbians bring on a second date? I think I hear the screech of a uhaul’s brakes. The stereotype that lesbians bring a uhaul to the second date stems from the fact that women tend to move fast when they date other women. I’m not sure why this happens. Perhaps our emotional bonds with other women burn on overdrive and we become attached once we find out we have things in common, have the same social expectations, and similar experiences. We fall head over heels, profess our love and talk about the future because we are… well women.
Women talk about everything from our thoughts, our feelings, and our goals, to our dreams and failures. When you get two who decide to date, fall in love over a period of time over lattes shared and erotic sex sessions that leave you reeling, feelings are bound to form. Men (many that I know) tend to hold back on these tidbits of information. I’m not sure if it’s because women are socialized from birth to take care of others and give into their emotions more than men but it’s interesting to contemplate.
I am getting off topic though. In the past I have contemplated the lesbian uhaul stereotype and if it applies to me. In my every day life I like to work, pursue creative hobbies and see my friends. A few days a week I will see my girlfriend. I am finding that my current relationship moved fairly quickly. I’m not sure if it’s because I fell harder and love this woman more or if it’s another reason altogether. I have barely slept in my own bed for the past couple months that we’ve been seeing one another. My girlfriend offered me space in her room to put things such as clothes and toiletries so I’m set for when I stay over. Am I becoming a lesbian who fits the stereotype? Maybe.
When I told her of the stereotype a month ago, she laughed at me and told me it was silly that gay culture had so many rules and stereotypes. When I jokingly asked if she was asking me to uhaul this month she told me she just wanted me to know that she wanted me to feel at home. I have told her that I am not ready to make the serious move into her place this early on (we’ve dated less than two months), but that I will consider it in the future. I am not ready to give up my identity as a 20 something woman living life and pursuing art in my free time. I feel that I will lose my identity if I do that at this point in time. As long as I keep communication lines open about my needs and wants, just as she does then I feel we’ll be ok.
(Photo credit: FeministDating )
I am gay, but this introverted artist is not ready for the uhaul. The number to the uhaul company is somewhere in my mind but I’m not sure where. When I’m ready I’ll recall the number and uhaul will gain another lesbian requiring their services. Until then uhaul…